Before meeting with your child or children, we would meet with you first, as their parents, to discuss whether the process would be appropriate.
Assuming that both parents agree to the process moving forward, we will invite your child or children to meet with us. At the first meeting, we will discuss carefully how this invitation is to be extended and the mechanics of setting up the meeting with your child or children. You will sign an Agreement for Direct Consultation.
As our child mediator, Edward Cooke has an enhanced Criminal Records Bureau (CRB) check and is always accompanied in the meeting by a female member of staff.
At the meeting with your child or children, Edward will provide a safe and open space for them to talk about how they are feeling. The fundamental rule in Child Inclusive Mediation is that the mediator only feeds back to the parents what the child or children agree should be reported. It is therefore a respectful and child-focused process. The central purpose of the process is to ensure the child’s voice has the opportunity to be heard.
After the meeting, Edward arranges to meet with the child or children’s parents to report back on the child’s wishes and feelings, and any key messages the child or children have asked be fed back to the parents.
This feedback is given to help parents reach agreement over any issues relating to their children.
Edward makes clear to the children in meeting with them that the final decision-making responsibility rests with the parents and that, whilst the children’s wishes will be taken into account, they do not have to make the decisions.
For further information about Child Inclusive Mediation, or to book an initial Mediation appointment, please contact Edward Cooke Family Mediation on 01243 769001.